As the care partner of someone with early onset Alzheimer’s disease, you may be feeling additional stress as we enter this holiday season. While we are still in the midst of COVID-19, there are steps you can take to modify family traditions. The suggestions below can help keep you and your loved ones safe, yet still provide opportunities to enjoy the holiday season and make new memories.
Shift your expectations
Simplify your celebrations as much as possible. Give yourself permission to only do things that can be easily managed. Have a conversation with family and friends to discuss the changes in this year’s holiday gatherings.
Celebrating in the midst of COVID-19
If your loved one with early onset Alzheimer’s disease is living at home, the following activities are great ways to keep them involved in celebrating the season:
- Schedule a holiday parade. Ask family and friends to drive by your house with homemade signs with holiday decorations.
- Bake Christmas and holiday cookies together.
- Go for a walk in your neighborhood, or drive through other neighborhoods, to look at the holiday lights.
- Send holiday cards and have your loved one sign the cards if they are able.
- Spend a morning or evening outside with hot chocolate and blankets.
- Listen to favorite Christmas carols or hymns.
- Watch favorite holiday movies.
Remember to maintain at least 6 feet of distance between yourself and any person who is not a member of your household.
If your loved one is in a long-term care facility and the facility has approved visits with COVID protocols, please abide by their guidelines. Encourage friends and family members to schedule time for window visits or an online visit via Zoom or Facetime. Whether your loved one is living at home or in a care facility, please avoid large gatherings.
Don’t feel pressured by the past
It is important not to compare past holiday memories to what is currently possible. Care partners can create added stress for themselves when they compare how things used to be to how things are now. Focus on the present and use this time to create new memories and traditions.
Surround yourself with support
Ask friends and family members to help—whether it’s going to the grocery store or coming to sit with your loved one so you can have a break. —you need to take care of yourself. This may be a good time to join an online support group. Being able to share your feelings and experiences with others that understand what you’re experiencing can be invaluable.